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Menachot 93 · Parenting voice, Bite-sized

April 14, 2026

Insight: The Beauty of Personal Responsibility

In Menachot 93, the Gemara engages in a dense, technical debate about the ritual of Semicha (placing hands on an offering). The core tension is whether an heir or an agent can fulfill this duty for another. The Sages conclude that Semicha is a deeply personal act: "His offering" means his hands, not someone else’s.

In parenting, we often want to "place our hands" on our children’s challenges—to fix, to substitute, or to carry their burdens for them. But this text reminds us that growth is non-transferable. While we can support our children, there are moments of character-building, learning, and emotional processing that they must do for themselves. Your "good-enough" parenting isn't about doing it for them; it’s about providing the space where they can take ownership of their own "offerings."