Mishneh Torah, Human Dispositions 6-7

Hey there, camp alum! Ready to sing some grown-up Torah?

Hook

Remember that classic camp song? "Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold!" Well, the Rambam would totally lead that campfire sing-along! He tells us that who we hang out with profoundly shapes who we become.

Context

• Nature's Influence: Rambam kicks off by reminding us that our character is naturally molded by our friends and community – it's just how we're built!
• Choosing Your Trail: Think of life as a winding forest path. The people you hike with determine the direction you head, the sights you see, and even the skills you pick up along the way.
• Actively Seek Wisdom: This isn't just about avoiding the "wrong crowd," but about intentionally seeking out the "wise" and "righteous" to learn from their good deeds.

Text Snapshot

The Rambam teaches: "It is natural for a man's character and actions to be influenced by his friends and associates... Therefore, he should associate with the righteous and be constantly in the company of the wise, so as to learn from their deeds... It is a positive commandment to cleave unto the wise and their disciples."

Close Reading

Insight 1: Your Squad, Your Spark

The Rambam isn't just giving friendly advice; he's laying down a mitzvah! It's not passive absorption, but an active, positive commandment to "cleave" (לדבק – lidbok) to the wise. At home, this means intentionally inviting inspiring people into your family's life – guests, virtual mentors, or even just sharing stories of people who embody wisdom. Who's in your family's "wise circle"?

Insight 2: More Than Just Avoiding Bad

We often focus on not doing bad things. But Rambam flips the script – it's about actively seeking out and connecting with good. For family life, this could mean dedicating a regular "wisdom time" – maybe reading stories of sages, discussing ethical dilemmas, or finding community projects that align with your values.

Micro-Ritual

This Friday night, as you light the Shabbat candles or prepare for Kiddush, take a moment. Sing this simple line, letting it echo in your heart: "הוֹלֵךְ אֶת חֲכָמִים יֶחְכָּם!" (He who walks with the wise will become wise!) Then, each family member shares one person (could be real, from a book, or even virtual!) who inspired them with wisdom that week.

Chevruta Mini

1. Who is one "wise person" (past or present, real or fictional!) that makes you want to be a better version of yourself?
2. What's one small, intentional step you can take this week to "cleave" to their wisdom more deeply?

Takeaway

Your environment is your growth medium! Cultivate it with intention, seeking out the wisdom that helps you and your family flourish.