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Mishneh Torah, Divorce 12 · Parenting voice, Bite-sized

October 3, 2026

Insight: The Power of Your Own Words

In Mishneh Torah, Divorce 12:1, Rambam highlights a profound principle: “The mouth that forbade is the mouth that permitted.” If a woman declares she was married and then divorced, her word carries weight because she is the one who defined her own reality. In parenting, we often worry about the "official" status of our kids—their grades, their behavior, the labels others apply. But this halachah reminds us that our personal narrative and our integrity in speaking it matter immensely. You are the primary witness to your child’s growth; your voice holds authority in shaping their identity, even when the world’s "official" records seem messy or incomplete.

Text Snapshot

"When a woman comes and says, 'I was married, and now I am divorced,' her word is accepted, because the source for the statements... [states that she is] permitted." — Mishneh Torah, Divorce 12:1