Mishneh Torah, Kings and Wars 2

Shalom, busy parents! Let's grab a quick moment of wisdom to help us navigate the beautiful chaos of family life.

Insight

We often think about the awe and respect due to leaders, and our Torah text certainly emphasizes the immense honor given to a king. But what's truly profound is the king's profound responsibility for humility and service to his people, and his duty to honor wisdom (Torah scholars) above himself. As parents, we are the "kings" and "queens" of our homes in many ways, with authority and vast responsibility. This text reminds us that true leadership isn't about wielding power, but about humbly serving our "subjects" (our children), listening to their needs, and modeling respect for wisdom, even when it means stepping down from our "throne" to do so.

Text Snapshot

"He should not lift up his heart above his brothers... He should be gracious and merciful to the small and the great, involving himself in their good and welfare." (Mishneh Torah, Kings and Wars 2:6-7) "Jehosephat, King of Judah... would rise from his throne and kiss him and address him as 'My teacher and master.'" (Mishneh Torah, Kings and Wars 2:10)

Activity

The "Family Meeting Minute" (5-7 minutes) Once this week, for just 5-7 minutes, let your child lead a discussion about something small: what movie to watch, what game to play, or even a minor challenge they're facing. Your role is to listen intently, ask clarifying questions, and genuinely consider their perspective, even if you don't ultimately agree. Emphasize that their ideas matter.

Script

For the awkward question: "Why do I always have to listen to you?" "That's a great question, and I hear that you feel that way. In our family, we have roles, and as your parent, part of my job is to make sure you're safe and growing. But it's also my job to listen and learn from you. Your thoughts and feelings matter, and I want to hear them. Let's talk about it."

Habit

Acknowledge Their Expertise Once a day, ask your child for their expert opinion on something – anything! "Which sock looks better?" "How do you think we should organize these toys?" "What's the best way to get to the park?" Let them feel their wisdom is valued, however small.

Takeaway

True leadership, inspired by our texts, is a beautiful blend of authority and humility. We guide our children, but we also model respect for wisdom, listen deeply, and serve their well-being. Bless you for trying to lead with both strength and a loving, humble heart.