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Mishneh Torah, Marriage 4
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The halachic landscape of coerced and structured kiddushin (betrothal) operates at the intersection of two distinct legal systems: the law of acquisitions (kinyan) and the law of personal status (issur v'heter). This sugya explores the mechanics of volition (da'at), the asymmetric efficacy of duress (ones), and the structural role of witnesses in establishing marriage.
- Core Issue 1: Asymmetric Coercion (Ones) in Marriage: Why is a woman’s coerced consent to kiddushin biblically or rabbinically void, while a man’s coerced consent remains valid?
- Core Issue 2: The Efficacy of Post-Facto Assent (Rotzah Ani): If a coerced party subsequently verbalizes consent, does this retroactively validate the transaction, or does the initial duress permanently contaminate the act?
- Core Issue 3: The Role of Witnesses (Eidut): Is the requirement of two kosher witnesses in kiddushin merely evidentiary (eidei berur) to prove the event occurred, or is it constitutive (eidei kiyyum), meaning the legal reality of marriage cannot exist without them?
- Nafka Minot (Halachic Ramifications):
- Whether a woman coerced into betrothal who later expresses consent requires a bill of divorce (get) to marry another.
- Whether a man coerced into betrothing a woman can invalidate the marriage by demonstrating that his consent was purely external.
- Whether kiddushin performed in private, with both parties fully admitting to the act, carries any legal weight.
- Primary Talmudic Sources: Bava Batra 48b, Kiddushin 2a, Kiddushin 9b, Ketubot 102b, Gittin 33a, Yevamot 112b.
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אין האשה מתקדשת אלא לרצונה, והמקדש אשה בעל כורחה אינה מקודשת. אבל האיש שאנסוהו עד שקידש, הרי זו מקודשת.
"A woman may be consecrated only voluntarily. If one forces a woman to be consecrated, she is not consecrated. When a man, by contrast, is forced to consecrate [a woman], she is consecrated."[^1]
Grammatical and Lexical Nuances
The Rambam’s formulation contains a structural shift. He begins with the passive/reflexive construction: Ein ha-ishah mitkaddeshet ella l'retzonah ("A woman may be consecrated only voluntarily"), but transitions to the active voice: ve-ha-mekaddesh ishah b'al korchah ("and he who consecrates a woman against her will").
This shift highlights a fundamental halachic reality: kiddushin is not an act performed upon a woman, but a collaborative legal event wherein she must actively permit herself to be consecrated. The passive mitkaddeshet indicates that her subjective will is a constitutive element of the transition in her personal status.
By contrast, regarding the man, the Rambam writes: aval ha-ish she-ansuhu ad she-kiddesh ("but a man whom they coerced until he consecrated"). Here, the active kiddesh is used. The man’s role is that of the initiator of the kinyan. While his da'at (intent) is required, the mechanics of how duress affects an initiator of an acquisition differ fundamentally from how it affects the one who must consent to being acquired.
Readings
The mechanics of coercion in kiddushin require a deep conceptual analysis of how da'at (intent) interacts with physical action. We must examine how Rishonim and Acharonim resolve the difficulties in the Rambam's rulings.
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│ Biblical Void: │ │ Rabbinic Void: │ │ Valid Kinyan: │ │ Invalid Buyer: │
│ No Da'at possible │ │ Hafka'at │ │ Mitzvah pressure │ │ Coerced buyers │
│ under duress. │ │ Kiddushin. │ │ creates intent. │ │ do not acquire. │
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1. Yad Eitan & Nachal Eitan: The Metaphysics of Rotzah Ani
The Yad Eitan addresses a fundamental problem regarding a coerced woman who eventually verbalizes consent.[^2] If a woman is forced to accept kiddushin, but during or immediately after the process she says, "I am willing" (rotzah ani), is she betrothed?
The Yad Eitan argues that even if she explicitly declares her willingness, the kiddushin remains invalid. He brings a proof from the Talmudic discussion of telyuhu u'kadesh (they hung her/coerced her and she betrothed) in Bava Batra 48b. There, Rav Ashi states that the Sages enacted a retroactive annulment of the marriage (afke'inhu rabanan l'kiddushin minei) because the groom acted improperly (she-lo k'hagan).
The Yad Eitan asks: If coercion fundamentally prevents the formation of da'at, then on a biblical level (m'de'oraita), the kiddushin should be completely void from the outset. Why would Rav Ashi need to invoke the rabbinic mechanism of hafka'at kiddushin (retroactive annulment of marriage)? If there was never any consent, there was never any marriage to annul!
From here, the Yad Eitan derives a major chiddush (novel insight): On a strictly biblical level, if a coerced woman eventually says "I am willing" (rotzah ani), her subsequent verbal assent retroactively heals the initial lack of volition. The duress is treated as a mechanism that merely suspended her free will; once she expresses willingness, the kiddushin is biblically valid.
Therefore, Rav Ashi was forced to invoke hafka'at kiddushin to declare that the Rabbis annulled even this biblically valid marriage. The Sages penalize the groom for using coercion, rendering her subsequent consent legally irrelevant on a rabbinic level.
The Nachal Eitan takes this analysis a step further.[^3] He notes the structural juxtaposition (hekesh) between havayah (marriage) and yetziah (divorce) derived from Kiddushin 9b:
$$\text{Havayah (Marriage)} \longleftrightarrow \text{Yetziah (Divorce)}$$
The Gemara states that just as divorce requires the "consent of the transferor" (da'at makneh), so too marriage requires the consent of the transferor—who, in the context of kiddushin, is the woman giving herself over to her husband.
The Nachal Eitan argues that since this comparison is biblical, any act of kiddushin lacking the woman's uncoerced consent must be biblically void. To resolve this with Rav Ashi's need for hafka'ah, he proposes that rotzah ani under duress is fundamentally different from standard consent.
The verbalization of rotzah ani under threat does not represent true internal da'at. However, because she physically accepted the money and spoke the words of consent, the Torah would have recognized this as a valid externalized transaction. The Sages, recognizing that allowing such marriages would leave women vulnerable to forced unions, utilized the principle of hafka'ah to dismantle the legal efficacy of her externalized consent.
2. Nachal Eitan: The Coerced Husband and the "Mitzvah" Heuristic
A major challenge arises regarding the Rambam's ruling that if a man is coerced into betrothing a woman, the kiddushin is valid.[^4] The Maggid Mishneh explains this by comparing it to the rule of telyuhu u'zavin (a forced sale), where the transaction is valid because "due to his duress, he resolves and transfers" (agav onsei gmar u'maknei).
However, the Nachal Eitan points out a glaring contradiction from the rulings of the Rema in Choshen Mishpat.[^5] The Rema rules that while a forced seller transfers ownership because he receives money, a forced buyer does not acquire the object. The principle of agav onsei gmar u'maknei applies only to one who rids himself of an object in exchange for cash, not to one who is forced to part with his money to acquire an unwanted object.
Since the husband in kiddushin is the buyer (he gives the money to acquire the woman), how can we say that his coerced act of betrothal is valid? He is a forced buyer, and a forced buyer should not acquire!
To resolve this, the Nachal Eitan offers two brilliant solutions:
Solution A: The Mitzvah Alignment Heuristic
In secular monetary law (choshen mishpat), a buyer coerced into purchasing an item does not resolve to acquire it because he has no intrinsic desire for the object. However, kiddushin is not a secular transaction; it is a mitzvah (the commandment of marriage and procreation).
The Halacha operates under the assumption that every Jewish soul ultimately desires to perform the commandments of the Torah. This is the underlying mechanism of the rule in Kiddushin 45b that we assume a son consents to a betrothal arranged by his father because "it is pleasing to a person to perform a mitzvah" (niha lei l'inish l'me'avad mitzvah).
Therefore, even when a man is physically coerced to betroth a woman, the external pressure aligns with his latent, intrinsic desire to fulfill the mitzvah of marriage. This spiritual alignment is powerful enough to generate the necessary gmar da'at (finality of intent) required for a valid acquisition, converting what would be an invalid forced purchase into a valid legal act.
Solution B: Structural Derivation from the Laws of Divorce
Alternatively, the Nachal Eitan suggests that the rules of kiddushin are structurally derived from the rules of gerushin (divorce) through the biblical hekesh (comparison). On a biblical level, a husband has the power to divorce his wife against her will (b'al korchah), as derived from Deuteronomy 24:1.
Because the Torah grants the husband the unilateral power to sever the marriage bond without the wife's consent, the mechanics of da'at on his side are less fragile. Since he is the active party who initiates both the creation and the dissolution of the status, the Torah does not require him to possess the same pristine, uncoerced intentionality that it requires of the woman.
His physical execution of the act of kiddushin, even under intense duress, is legally sufficient to bind him, because his role as the active initiator does not demand absolute subjective willingness in the same way it is demanded of the passive party who is being restricted.
3. Shorshei HaYam: Silence vs. Verbal Assent under Duress
The Shorshei HaYam enters the debate by analyzing the precise nature of the woman’s reaction during a coerced betrothal.[^6] He notes that the Talmudic sugya of telyuhu u'kadesh assumes the woman eventually accepted the money without protest.
The Shorshei HaYam contrasts the views of the Rambam and the Ra'avad:
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│ Silence = Assent │ │ Silence = Protest │
│ Acceptance without verbal protest │ │ Must explicitly say "I want" │
│ is biblically valid under duress. │ │ to overcome the duress. │
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The Ra'avad holds that unless the coerced woman explicitly says "I am willing" (rotzah ani), her physical acceptance of the kiddushin in silence is legally meaningless. The duress is assumed to continue, and her silence is interpreted as a silent protest.
The Rambam, however, implies that if she accepts the money and does not actively protest or issue a formal notification of duress (moda'ah), her silence is interpreted as passive acquiescence.
The Shorshei HaYam resolves this by dissecting the underlying psychology of telyuhu u'zavin (forced sale). In a forced sale, the transaction is valid because the seller receives fair market value. The receipt of money is the catalyst that transforms his coerced state into a state of resolution (gmar da'at).
In kiddushin, the woman receives a perutah (the minimal monetary value required for betrothal). According to the Rambam, the receipt of this legal value, combined with her physical acceptance of the money without outward protest, is sufficient to establish a biblical transaction.
The Ra'avad, however, argues that a perutah is not "fair market value" for a woman's personal status. It is a symbolic legal instrument. Therefore, the receipt of a perutah cannot serve as the psychological catalyst to transform her duress into genuine consent. Consequently, without an explicit verbal declaration of rotzah ani, she remains entirely unbetrothed.
Friction
The Core Conceptual Kushya: The Paradox of the Forced Buyer
The most glaring conceptual friction in this sugya lies in the comparison between commercial acquisitions (Choshen Mishpat) and marital acquisitions (Even HaEzer).
How can the Halacha maintain that a coerced husband's kiddushin is valid based on the principle of telyuhu u'zavin (forced sale), while simultaneously holding that in the realm of commerce, a coerced buyer does not acquire?
To sharpen the difficulty: In Bava Batra 48b, the Gemara establishes the validity of a forced sale:
תליוהו וזבין, זביניה זביני.
"If they hung him and he sold, his sale is valid."
The reason given is:
אגב אונסיה גמר ומקני.
"Due to his duress, he resolves and transfers."
The seller, facing physical harm, decides that he prefers the cash to the property. He makes a conscious, rational calculation to transfer ownership.
However, as the Rema notes in Choshen Mishpat, this logic is entirely absent in a forced purchase.^7 If thugs coerce a person to buy a specific field for a set sum of money, the transaction is void.
Why? Because a buyer is parting with his liquid assets (money) to receive an object he does not want. He does not experience the psychological resolution of gmar u'maknei (resolving to transfer) because he is not the transferor; he is the acquirer. He has no desire to bind his capital to this specific asset.
Since kiddushin is structurally modeled after the acquisition of a field—derived from the gezerah shavah (verbal analogy) of kikhah-kikhah from the field of Ephron in Kiddushin 2a—the husband is legally positioned as the buyer. He is the one who gives the money (kesef) to acquire the woman.
If so, he is a forced buyer! Why should his coerced kiddushin be valid?
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│ Commercial Law (CS 205) │ │ Marital Law (EH 42) │
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│ Forced Seller: VALID │ │ Forced Wife: INVALID │
│ Forced Buyer: INVALID │ │ Forced Husband: VALID │
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The Terutzim
To resolve this profound friction, we must look at three distinct conceptual pathways proposed by the commentators:
Terutz A: The Ontological Distinction Between Property and Marital Status
The Tzafnat Pa'neach (the Rogotchover Gaon) resolves the paradox by distinguishing between the nature of commercial ownership and the nature of marital status.[^8]
In a commercial transaction, ownership (mamon) is a purely quantitative relationship between a person and an object. If a buyer is forced to purchase an item, his lack of desire for the object prevents the creation of the subjective relationship of ownership.
Kiddushin, however, is not merely a commercial acquisition. It consists of two parallel, yet distinct, halachic tracks:
- The monetary track (kinyan kesef).
- The ritual status track (issur ishut - creating a personal prohibition).
When a man betroths a woman, he does not "own" her in the commercial sense. Rather, he performs an act that renders her forbidden to the entire world, like an object dedicated to the Temple (asrah lah a-kulei alma k'hekdesh), as noted in Kiddushin 2b.
The Rogotchover argues that the requirement of da'at (intent) for creating a ritual prohibition (issur) is fundamentally different from the da'at required for commercial acquisitions. For a ritual prohibition to take effect, the Halacha does not require the same voluntary, uncoerced intentionality that it requires to transfer property.
The physical act of giving the money with the verbal declaration "Behold, you are consecrated to me" is sufficient to trigger the ontological shift in her status, even if the man was coerced into performing the act. His duress does not undermine the objective reality of the words spoken and the action performed.
Terutz B: The Power of the Husband's Unilateral Agency
The Shorshei HaYam offers a different resolution based on the inherent asymmetry of the marital bond.[^9] Under biblical law, the husband is the sole agent capable of initiating both kiddushin (marriage) and gerushin (divorce). The woman is the recipient of these actions.
Because the husband possesses the unilateral legal power to dissolve the marriage at any moment through a get (bill of divorce) without her consent, his coerced initiation of the marriage does not trap him. If he truly does not want this marriage, he can simply write her a get immediately after the coercion ends.
Therefore, when the husband is coerced into performing kiddushin, the Halacha can afford to view his act as valid. The Sages did not need to step in and annul his coerced act, because he possesses the self-correcting legal mechanism of divorce.
By contrast, if a woman is coerced into kiddushin, she has no unilateral way to free herself. She cannot write a get, nor can she divorce him against his will.
If the Halacha were to recognize her coerced consent as valid, she would be trapped forever. Therefore, the Sages utilized their ultimate power of hafka'at kiddushin to declare that any coerced betrothal of a woman is completely void.
Terutz C: The "Double Standard" of the Hekesh
We can also resolve this through a literal reading of the biblical comparison (hekesh) between marriage and divorce:
$$\text{Havayah (Marriage)} \longleftrightarrow \text{Yetziah (Divorce)}$$
In Kiddushin 9b, the Gemara derives the laws of kiddushin from gerushin.
In the realm of divorce, a husband can write and deliver a get to his wife against her will (b'al korchah), and she is divorced. This proves that the party who is being "acquired" or "released" (the woman) does not need to possess active, voluntary da'at for the status change to occur; her physical receipt of the document is sufficient.
When we apply this comparison back to kiddushin, we find that:
- The husband is the active party (the "acquirer" or "releaser").
- The wife is the passive party (the one being "acquired" or "released").
Just as in divorce, the passive party (the wife) can be affected against her will, one might have thought that in marriage, she could also be acquired against her will. However, the Torah specifically writes "When a man takes a woman" (Deuteronomy 24:1), implying her consent is required.
But regarding the active party (the husband), the hekesh remains intact. Just as he can actively divorce her under pressure, so too his active step of betrothing her under pressure is valid.
The Torah does not protect the active initiator from the consequences of his physical actions, even when those actions are performed under duress.
Intertext
To fully appreciate the depth of the Rambam's rulings in Hilchot Ishut, we must examine how these principles of coercion, intent, and status manifest in other areas of the Torah and Halacha.
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│ Maser & Avot │ │ Kiyyum vs Berur │ │Shifchah Charufah │
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│ Coerced Temple │ │ Marital status │ │ Liminal identity │
│ offerings: │ │ requires │ │ requires unique │
│ "Until he says │ │ constitutive │ │ split da'at │
│ I want." │ │ witnesses. │ │ mechanics. │
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1. The Metaphysics of Coercion: Sacrifices and Voluntary Intent
The concept of "coercing someone until they consent" (kofin oto ad she-yomar rotzah ani) is not unique to marriage and divorce. It appears in the laws of Temple offerings (Korbanot).
In Mishnah Arakhin 5:6, the law states that if a person vows to bring a sacrifice but refuses to do so, we coerce him:
כופין אותו עד שיאמר רוצה אני.
"We coerce him until he says, 'I am willing.'"
How can a coerced sacrifice be acceptable to God? The Torah explicitly states that a sacrifice must be brought "voluntarily" (l'retzono), as derived from Leviticus 1:3.
The Rambam, in Hilchot Gerushin, explains the philosophical underpinnings of this mechanism:^10
Every Jew, at their core, wants to be part of the Jewish people, fulfill the commandments, and distance themselves from sin. It is only their external "evil inclination" (yetzer ha-ra) that temporarily hijacks their will and causes them to refuse.
Therefore, when the rabbinical court applies physical pressure to a recalcitrant individual, they are not forcing him to perform an act against his true inner will. Rather, they are neutralizing his external, temporary inhibition.
Once the pressure of his evil inclination is broken by the court's physical coercion, his true, latent desire to do the right thing emerges, allowing him to say "I am willing" (rotzah ani) with genuine, halachic sincerity.
This philosophical model helps explain why a coerced husband's kiddushin is valid. The external duress applied to him to marry a woman is not viewed as a total violation of his free will. Rather, it is viewed as a force that aligns his external actions with his latent spiritual obligation to build a home and fulfill the mitzvah of procreation.
2. Constitutive Witnesses (Eidei Kiyyum) vs. Evidentiary Witnesses (Eidei Berur)
The Rambam rules that if a man betroths a woman in the presence of only a single witness, the kiddushin is completely void, even if both the man and the woman fully admit to the act.[^11]
This is a fundamental departure from the rules of civil law (choshen mishpat). In civil law, if a person admits to owing money, no witnesses are required to establish the debt, based on the principle:
הודאת בעל דין כמאה עדים דמי.
"The admission of a litigant is like the testimony of one hundred witnesses."[^12]
Why does this principle fail in the realm of marriage?
The Tzafnat Pa'neach and the Tumim explain this through the classic distinction between two types of witnesses:[^13]
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│ Used in Civil Law (Choshen Mishpat) │ │ Used in Marital Law (Even │
│ │ │ HaEzer) │
│ Goal: To prove a past event occurred.│ │ Goal: To create the legal │
│ │ │ reality of the event. │
│ Admission bypasses need for proof. │ │ Without them, the act is │
│ │ │ ontologically void. │
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In civil law, the transaction (the loan or the sale) is created by the subjective agreement of the parties. The role of witnesses is merely evidentiary (eidei berur)—to provide proof to the court in case of a future dispute. If both parties admit to the transaction, we do not need proof, and the admission is sufficient.
In marriage, however, the role of witnesses is constitutive (eidei kiyyum). The legal status of kiddushin cannot come into existence without the physical presence of two kosher witnesses observing the act.
The witnesses are not there to prove that the couple got married; their presence is what creates the marriage.
Without witnesses, the act of giving money is just a physical event; it has no halachic reality. Therefore, even if both parties fully admit to the act, their admission cannot create a status that requires the objective presence of witnesses to exist.
3. The Case of the Shifchah Charufah (Betrothed Maidservant)
The Rambam discusses the unique case of the shifchah charufah—a woman who is half-slave and half-free, who has been betrothed to a Hebrew servant.[^14] This status is derived from Leviticus 19:20:
וְאִישׁ כִּי יִשְׁכַּב אֶת אִשָּׁה שִׁכְבַּת זֶרַע וְהִיא שִׁפְחָה נֶחֱרֶפֶת לְאִישׁ וְהָפְדֵּה לֹא נִפְדָּתָה אוֹ חֻפְשָׁה לֹא נִתַּן לָהּ בִּקֹּרֶת תִּהְיֶה לֹא יוּמְתוּ כִּי לֹא חֻפָּשָׁה.
"If a man lies carnally with a woman who is a slave betrothed to another man, but she has not been redeemed or given her freedom, there shall be an inquiry; they shall not be put to death, because she was not free."
The shifchah charufah represents a liminal legal state. She is caught between two worlds:
- As a Canaanite maidservant, she is considered property and cannot contract a valid marriage.
- As a free woman, she possesses the legal capacity (da'at) to contract a marriage.
Because she is half-slave and half-free, her kiddushin is in a state of suspended animation. It is not completely void, nor is it fully valid.
The Rambam notes that once she is granted her full freedom, the kiddushin is automatically completed without the need for a second ceremony.
This ruling sheds light on the mechanics of da'at in marriage. It proves that da'at is not a simple, binary switch (either you have it or you don't). Rather, da'at is a spectrum of legal capacity.
The half-slave possesses a "split" legal identity. Her free half can initiate the kiddushin, while her slave half holds it back from taking full effect.
Once the impediment of her slavery is removed, her latent, pre-existing da'at expands to cover her entire person, completing the marriage bond retroactively.
Psak/Practice
How do these theoretical models of coercion, intent, and status manifest in modern halachic decision-making?
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│ Courts coerce recalcitrant husbands │ │ Marriages performed without kosher │
│ to give a get. │ │ witnesses or traditional intent. │
│ Must balance the pressure to avoid │ │ often require a "get mi-safek" │
│ a "forced divorce" (get meusah). │ │ (divorce due to doubt). │
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1. The Agunah Crisis and Coerced Divorces (Get Me'usah)
The most pressing application of these principles in contemporary times is the resolution of the Agunah crisis (women whose husbands refuse to grant them a bill of divorce).
Under halachic law, a get must be given by the husband of his own free will. If a rabbinical court improperly coerces a husband into giving a divorce, the divorce is classified as a get me'usah (a coerced divorce) and is completely void.[^15]
To navigate this, rabbinical courts must apply the precise definitions of legitimate coercion established in our sugya:
- If the husband is legally obligated to divorce his wife based on specific talmudic grounds (e.g., physical abuse or refusal to support), the court can apply physical or financial pressure. This is because the coercion merely forces him to do what the Torah obligates him to do, aligning his external actions with his true inner will (kofin oto ad she-yomar rotzah ani).
- If, however, the court applies coercion in a case where there are no clear talmudic grounds for divorce, the get is invalid.
Modern halachic authorities debate the validity of civil sanctions (such as withholding a driver's license or imprisonment) under these guidelines.
The consensus of major poskim is that while physical violence must be used only by a formal, ordained rabbinical court (Beit Din), indirect pressures—such as social ostracization or financial penalties—can be used more broadly to encourage the husband to choose to give the divorce of his own accord.
2. The Status of Civil and Non-Orthodox Marriages
In the modern era, many Jewish couples marry in civil ceremonies or through non-Orthodox movements without kosher witnesses or traditional kiddushin formulas.
Do these couples require a get if they decide to separate?
This question hinges directly on the Rambam’s ruling regarding kiddushin performed without witnesses.[^16]
The Rambam is clear: without two kosher witnesses observing the act of betrothal, the marriage is completely void. It has no biblical or rabbinic standing, and no get is required.
However, the Rivash and subsequent authorities raise a major concern based on the talmudic principle:[^17]
אין אדם עושה בעילתו בעילת זנות.
"A person does not intend for his sexual relations to be acts of promiscuity."
This principle suggests that when a couple lives together as husband and wife in the eyes of the community, we must suspect that they intended to establish a common-law marriage through the medium of sexual relations (kinyan bi'ah).
Since sexual relations do not require formal verbal formulas in the presence of witnesses under the chuppah, their ongoing cohabitation might establish a valid rabbinic or even biblical marriage.
Therefore, modern rabbinical courts generally require a get mi-safek (a divorce out of doubt) for couples dissolving a civil marriage, provided they lived together as husband and wife.
However, if requiring a get would cause extreme hardship—such as if the husband has disappeared or refuses to cooperate—many authorities rely on the strict ruling of the Rambam that without formal eidei kiyyum (constitutive witnesses) under the chuppah, no marriage ever existed, allowing the woman to remarry without a get.
Takeaway
The validity of kiddushin hinges on a delicate balance: while a woman's sacred personal status (issur) demands absolute, uncoerced volition (da'at), a man's active legal agency can be channeled through external pressure to align with his latent spiritual duties. Ultimately, marriage is not merely a private agreement of the heart, but an objective legal reality that can only be brought into existence through the constitutive power of kosher witnesses.
[^1]: Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:1. [^2]: Yad Eitan on Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:1:1. [^3]: Nachal Eitan on Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:1:1. [^4]: Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:1. See also Maggid Mishneh ad loc. [^5]: Nachal Eitan on Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:1:2, citing Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 205. [^6]: Shorshei HaYam on Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:1:1. [^7]: Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 205:12. [^8]: Tzafnat Pa'neach on Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:1:1. [^9]: Shorshei HaYam on Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:1:1. [^10]: Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Gerushin 2:20. [^11]: Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:6. [^12]: Kiddushin 65b. [^13]: Tzafnat Pa'neach, Kallei HaTorah; Tumim 90:14. [^14]: Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:17. [^15]: Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Gerushin 2:20. [^16]: Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Ishut 4:6. [^17]: Gittin 81b; Responsa of the Rivash, Siman 6.
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