Parashat Hashavua · Former Jewish Camper · Deep-Dive
Genesis 23:1-25:18
Hey there, future Torah-bringer! So good to have you back in our virtual camp circle. Grab a s'more, or maybe a fancy coffee, because we're about to dive into some seriously deep, yet totally accessible, Torah. Think of it as "campfire Torah" that grew up, got a job, and now helps you connect your amazing Jewish roots to your everyday home life. No sleeping bags required, just an open heart and a willingness to explore!
This week, we're trekking through Parashat Chayei Sarah – "The Life of Sarah." But don't let the name fool you, this parsha is packed with endings, new beginnings, epic journeys, and some truly foundational moments for the Jewish people. It’s a transition parsha, full of movement, grief, and the glorious unfolding of a divine plan. Are you ready to light that inner flame? Let's go!
Hook
Alright, close your eyes for a sec. Can you smell the pine needles and the damp earth after a summer rain? Can you hear the crackle of the campfire, the distant chirping of crickets, and the hushed whispers of your bunkmates? For me, that smell, that sound, instantly takes me back to a magical night at camp. It was the last Havdalah of the summer, and the air was thick with a bittersweet mixture of longing for home and sorrow that this incredible chapter was closing.
We were all gathered, maybe a hundred of us, huddled close on the hill overlooking the lake. The sky was still a deep, inky blue, but a sliver of moon was already peeking out, promising the week ahead. Our counselors, with their guitars and their voices that seemed to hold all the wisdom of the world, led us in the Havdalah service. The flickering flame of the twisted candle danced, casting long, wavering shadows that made the trees look like ancient giants. We passed around the spice box, inhaling that sweet, intoxicating aroma that was both a comfort and a gentle reminder of the Shabbat we were letting go of. The borei p'ri hagafen for the wine, the borei m'orei ha'eish for the fire, the borei minei b'samim for the spices, and then that final, unifying hamavdil bein kodesh l'chol.
But it was the moment after the candle was extinguished, when we dipped our fingers in the wine and touched our eyelids, symbolizing the light we carry within us, that really got me. We always sang that one song – you know the one, "Eliyahu HaNavi," but then we'd transition into this beautiful, melancholic niggun, wordless, just pure emotion. And then, our head counselor, a guy named Ari who had this incredible way of making everything feel profound, would speak.
He’d always say something like, "Look around you. This circle, this kehillah we've built here, it's not just for summer. It's inside you. You take this light, this warmth, this connection, and you carry it home. You're not leaving it behind; you're transplanting it. Like a little sapling, strong and ready to grow in new soil."
That image of a sapling, strong and ready to grow in new soil, has always stuck with me. It’s about continuity, isn’t it? About how even when something ends, something else begins, and the essence, the ruach (spirit), carries on. It's about remembering that the lessons learned, the connections forged, the spiritual nourishment we received, they aren't just for that specific moment or place. They are meant to be woven into the fabric of our everyday lives, our homes, our families.
This parsha, Chayei Sarah, is a lot like that last Havdalah at camp. It’s filled with endings and beginnings, with transitions that could feel heartbreaking, but are ultimately about the vibrant continuation of a sacred legacy. Sarah, the matriarch, passes away. A monumental loss. But almost immediately, the narrative pivots to finding Isaac a wife, Rebekah, who will become the next matriarch. The "sun of Sarah sets," as some commentators teach, but the "sun of Rebekah rises." (Kitzur Ba'al HaTurim on Genesis 23:1:1) It's a powerful message that even in moments of profound grief and change, the flame of our tradition, our family, and our faith, never truly goes out. It simply finds a new vessel, a new place to shine, a new home to illuminate.
Let's carry that feeling of continuity and transition, that camp Havdalah wisdom, into our text today. We're going to see how Abraham navigates loss, secures a future, and sets his family on a path that literally shapes the destiny of a nation. It's about bringing the spiritual "light" of your camp days, those deep lessons of kehillah (community), ruach (spirit), and tikkun olam (repairing the world, even in small ways), right into the heart of your home.
So, when we sing a line later, a simple, melodic phrase, let it be this: (Niggun, simple, rising and falling melody, repeating) "The sun may set, the new sun rise, the light within us never dies!" (Imagine a simple, hopeful melody, perhaps like the opening to Oseh Shalom or a similar traditional tune.)
This niggun captures the essence of what we're exploring today: the eternal dance of endings and beginnings, and the enduring power of the light we carry.
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Context
Let's set the stage, friends! Imagine you're gathered 'round the fire, the stars are popping in the inky blackness above, and we're looking at the bigger picture of our story. This week's parsha, Chayei Sarah (Genesis 23:1-25:18), is a pivotal moment in the Genesis narrative, a real turning point for Abraham's family and the nascent Jewish people.
The End of an Era, The Dawn of a Legacy
- This parsha opens with the death of Sarah, Abraham’s beloved wife and the first matriarch of the Jewish people. It’s a moment of profound grief and transition. Sarah's life spanned 127 years, a number uniquely broken down in the Torah, hinting at the completeness and significance of her existence (Genesis 23:1). Her passing marks the end of an era, but importantly, it immediately propels Abraham into securing a lasting foothold for his family in the Land of Canaan. It's about laying down roots, literally and metaphorically, even in the face of loss.
A New Generation Takes the Reins, A Journey of Faith
- With Sarah gone, Abraham's attention turns to the future of his son, Isaac. He sends his trusted servant on an epic journey to find a wife for Isaac from among his own people, rather than the local Canaanites. This quest for Rebekah is a masterclass in faith, divine providence, and human agency. It's a story of prayer, signs, incredible hospitality, and the free will of a young woman who says, "I will go." It’s like a spiritual orienteering challenge, where the destination is clear, but the path requires trust in a higher guide and an openness to unexpected turns, much like navigating an unfamiliar forest trail where you trust the markers and your inner compass.
Securing the Future, Closing Chapters
- The parsha concludes with Abraham himself passing away at a ripe old age, but not before ensuring Isaac inherits everything and setting up his other children with gifts, sending them eastward. We also get a brief, but significant, mention of Ishmael's lineage and death, showing the broader family picture. It's a powerful lesson in stewardship, ensuring that the blessings and responsibilities are passed on wisely and deliberately. The circle of life continues, with new generations stepping up to carry the torch.
Text Snapshot
Let’s zero in on a couple of lines that really set the tone for the transition and continuity we're talking about today. Pay attention to how the narrative moves from an ending to a new beginning, almost seamlessly.
"Sarah’s lifetime—the span of Sarah’s life—came to one hundred and twenty-seven years.,Sarah died in Kiriath-arba—now Hebron—in the land of Canaan; and Abraham proceeded to mourn for Sarah and to bewail her. ... Isaac then brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he took Rebekah as his wife. Isaac loved her, and thus found comfort after his mother’s death." (Genesis 23:1-2, 24:67)
Close Reading
Wow, just these few lines already give us so much to unpack, right? From the finality of Sarah’s death to the tender embrace of Isaac and Rebekah, it’s a whirlwind of human emotion and divine design. Let's dig in, just like we would on a nature scavenger hunt, looking for those hidden gems of wisdom.
Insight 1: Rooting Our Legacy: The Sacred Act of Making a Home
The parsha opens with Sarah’s death, a profound loss for Abraham and for the nascent Jewish family. Yet, Abraham's immediate response isn't solely passive mourning. It's active, deliberate, and deeply strategic. He doesn't just cry; he rises from beside his dead and engages in a complex negotiation with the Hittites to purchase the Cave of Machpelah as a burial site (Genesis 23:3-20). This isn't just about burying Sarah; it’s about establishing an eternal foothold, a physical marker of belonging, in the Land of Canaan. It's about rooting his family's legacy.
Think about this in camp terms. When you arrive at camp, you might feel a bit unmoored, right? New bunk, new people, new schedule. But quickly, you start to make it yours. You decorate your bed, find your favorite spot by the lake, learn the paths, build friendships. You’re rooting yourself in this temporary home. Abraham, in a moment of ultimate loss, is doing something similar, but with eternal consequences. He's saying, "This land, which God promised, will be our eternal resting place. We are here to stay."
The commentaries offer beautiful insights here. Rashbam (on Genesis 23:1:1) notes that Sarah's age is revealed precisely because her death is directly related to the purchase of Machpelah. It's not just a biographical detail; it's a narrative necessity. Her passing triggers the acquisition of this crucial piece of land, tying her life and death inextricably to the future of the Jewish people and their claim to the land. This act of purchasing the burial ground is not merely a transaction; it is an act of profound faith and stewardship. Abraham is not just burying his wife; he is burying his wife in the promised land, establishing a physical connection that will last for generations. He is taking responsibility for the future of his family’s spiritual and physical inheritance.
Bringing it Home: How does this translate to our homes and family life? Often, when we experience loss or significant change, our instinct might be to retreat, to curl up in our grief. Abraham shows us a different path: to grieve, yes, but also to act. To secure, to build, to root.
Creating Sacred Spaces: Just as Abraham sought a specific, permanent burial site, we can consciously create sacred spaces in our homes. This doesn't have to be a grand gesture. It could be a designated spot for Shabbat candles, a special shelf for Jewish books, a corner where you gather for family prayers or reflections. It's about intentionality. When we designate a space, we imbue it with meaning, making our home not just a house, but a sanctuary, a place where our family’s spiritual legacy can take root. Perhaps it's a "family tree" wall where photos of grandparents and ancestors remind us of our roots, or a mizrach (east-facing) wall with a beautiful piece of art that signifies our connection to Jerusalem. These are our modern-day "Cave of Machpelahs" – places that anchor our spiritual journey.
The Power of Proactive Legacy: Abraham's negotiation for Machpelah is meticulous and determined. He insists on paying the full price, demonstrating integrity and a deep commitment to ownership. This teaches us about proactive legacy building. What values, traditions, and stories do we want to pass on to our children? It's not enough to hope they absorb them; we need to be deliberate. Do we share family stories around the dinner table? Do we involve our children in tikkun olam (repairing the world) projects? Do we model ethical behavior and chesed (loving-kindness) in our daily interactions? Just as Abraham "bought" his family's future, we "invest" in our children's spiritual and moral inheritance through our actions and conscious choices. This is active stewardship of our family's soul. It's about saying, "This is who we are, this is what we believe, and this is how we live it."
Community as a Foundation (Kehillah): Abraham, a "resident alien" among the Hittites, still engages with them respectfully and strategically. He bows low, he negotiates, he ensures the transaction is public and transparent. He builds relationships, even with those outside his immediate family. This reminds us that our family’s home and legacy are not built in a vacuum. They are part of a larger kehillah (community). How do we engage with our neighbors, our wider community, our synagogue, our children’s schools? Do we model respect and engagement, even when we have differences? Our ability to root ourselves and build a strong family unit is often enhanced by the strength and support of the communities we choose to be a part of. Just like at camp, where the bunk became home, but the entire camp community was our supportive kehillah, our family thrives when it is connected to something larger than itself.
The act of buying the Machpelah cave, in the midst of mourning, is a testament to Abraham’s enduring faith and his commitment to the future. It’s a powerful lesson that even in our darkest hours, we have the capacity to lay down foundations, to root our legacy, and to ensure that the light of our family continues to shine. This isn't just about land; it's about identity, belonging, and the unwavering belief in the promises of tomorrow.
Insight 2: Guiding Hands and Open Hearts: Finding Our Way with Divine and Human Partnership
Once Sarah is buried and a permanent resting place secured, Abraham, now "old, advanced in years, and the Lord had blessed Abraham in all things" (Genesis 24:1), turns his attention to the next crucial step: finding a wife for Isaac. He sends his senior servant on a mission, making him swear an oath not to take a wife from the Canaanites, but from Abraham's own kin. This entire chapter (Genesis 24) is a masterpiece of storytelling, showcasing an intricate dance between divine providence and human effort, a theme deeply resonant with the ruach (spirit) that guides our lives.
The servant's journey is a microcosm of our own life quests. He sets out with clear instructions, but also with immense responsibility and uncertainty. He prays at the well, asking for a clear sign: the woman who offers not only him water but also his camels will be the one. This is a bold prayer, asking for a sign of extraordinary chesed (loving-kindness) and hospitality. And lo and behold, Rebekah appears, fulfilling the exact criteria, and then some! She doesn't just offer; she runs to draw water for all ten of his camels, a monumental effort (Genesis 24:15-20).
Kitzur Ba'al HaTurim (on Genesis 23:1:1) offers a beautiful midrash, stating, "Until Sarah's sun set, Rebekah's sun rose." This imagery perfectly captures the continuity and seamless transition in the narrative. Sarah's legacy of hospitality, faith, and partnership is not lost but immediately picked up by Rebekah. It's a powerful reminder that even as one chapter closes, another begins, and the spiritual light of our tradition is always being rekindled in a new generation. This is the ruach of continuity, flowing through time.
Bringing it Home: How do we navigate our own journeys of discovery, decision-making, and continuity within our families? The story of Rebekah’s finding offers profound lessons for home and family life:
Prayerful Intent and Openness to Signs (Ruach): The servant's prayer is not vague. It's specific, yet it leaves room for the miraculous. He sets an intention, asks for divine guidance, and then remains observant. How often do we make big family decisions – about moving, schooling, even just planning a vacation – without truly pausing to set an intention, pray, and then pay attention to the "signs" or unexpected opportunities that arise? This doesn't mean sitting back and waiting for a lightning bolt; it means doing our due diligence, making our efforts, but also cultivating an inner stillness, a spiritual antenna, that allows us to perceive God's guiding hand. It's about acknowledging that while we do our part, there's a larger ruach at play, guiding us, if we're open to it. At camp, we'd call this "trusting the process" or "listening to your gut" – that inner knowing that often feels like more than just your own thoughts.
The Power of Radical Hospitality and Proactive Chesed: Rebekah's actions at the well are incredible. She goes above and beyond, drawing water for ten camels, which is a significant physical task. This is radical hospitality, chesed in action. It’s not just fulfilling a request; it’s anticipating needs and giving generously without being asked. In our homes, how do we cultivate this kind of proactive chesed? Do we teach our children to anticipate the needs of others – a sibling needing help, a parent who looks tired, a friend who seems down? Do we model going the extra mile for guests, for family members, for strangers? Imagine the impact on our family dynamics if everyone sought to offer "water for ten camels" to one another in small, daily acts of kindness. This isn't about being a doormat; it's about building a culture of generosity and attentiveness to others' well-being, a true kehillah within the home.
Agency and Choice: "I Will Go": One of the most powerful moments in the narrative is when Rebekah's family, after hearing the servant’s story and acknowledging that "the matter was decreed by the Lord" (Genesis 24:50), still asks Rebekah directly: "Will you go with this man?" And she unequivocally replies, "I will" (Genesis 24:58). This is huge. Even with divine providence seemingly orchestrating everything, Rebekah retains her free will, her agency. She chooses her destiny. This is a critical lesson for our families. While we strive to pass on traditions and values, we must also foster an environment where our children feel empowered to make their own choices, to own their Jewish identity, and to actively say "I will" to their path. It’s about raising individuals who are rooted in tradition but also capable of independent spiritual journeys. It’s about creating a home where choices are respected, and personal agency is celebrated, even within the framework of family values. Just as at camp, where counselors guide, but campers ultimately choose their activities and forge their own experiences, our children need that space to choose.
Comfort in Transition: The parsha ends this section with Isaac finding comfort in Rebekah after his mother's death. "Isaac loved her, and thus found comfort after his mother’s death" (Genesis 24:67). This is such a tender and human moment. It reminds us that grief is real, and it takes time. But new relationships, new love, and new beginnings can indeed bring healing and comfort. In family life, especially after loss or major change, it's crucial to acknowledge the pain, but also to embrace the possibility of new connections, new routines, and new sources of joy. It’s about understanding that continuity doesn't mean replacing what was lost, but integrating it into the evolving tapestry of our lives. The ruach of Sarah, the spirit of her legacy, lives on through Isaac and Rebekah's union, bringing comfort and a renewed sense of purpose.
The story of Rebekah's finding is not just a romantic tale; it's a guide for living. It teaches us about the interplay of faith and action, the beauty of radical chesed, the importance of personal agency, and the comforting power of new beginnings. It’s about stepping out into the unknown, trusting in a guiding ruach, and building a home filled with intentionality and love.
Micro-Ritual
Okay, campers, let’s bring some of this beautiful Torah energy into your home with a super simple, yet meaningful, tweak to your Havdalah ritual. Remember that feeling of continuity, of the sun setting and a new sun rising, carrying the light within you? This ritual is all about that.
Havdalah of Continuity: The Light We Carry
Havdalah is inherently a ritual of transition – moving from the sacred rest of Shabbat back into the week. We're going to layer on the themes of Chayei Sarah: acknowledging endings, embracing new beginnings, and actively carrying forward the light of our legacy.
The Setup (Just a few extra steps!):
- Gather your usual Havdalah items: A multi-wick candle, a cup of wine/grape juice, a spice box (or any sweet-smelling spice like cinnamon sticks, cloves, even a fresh herb like rosemary), and a plate to catch wax.
- Add a "Legacy Light" element: Before Havdalah, find a small, meaningful object for each family member present. This could be a tiny pebble, a smooth shell, a small piece of fabric, a charm, or even a small drawing. The idea is that this object will represent "the light they carry" into the new week. Place these objects near your Havdalah setup.
- Prepare a "Future Intention" card: Have a small card or piece of paper and a pen ready.
The Ritual (What to do, step-by-step):
Standard Havdalah: Begin with your usual Havdalah service:
- Blessing over Wine: Baruch Atah Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha'olam, Borei P'ri HaGafen. (Blessed are You, Lord our God, King of the Universe, Who creates the fruit of the vine.)
- Blessing over Spices: Pass the spice box around. As each person smells the spices, encourage them to take a deep breath and think about the sweetness of Shabbat, or a sweet memory from the past week. Baruch Atah Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha'olam, Borei Minei V'samim. (Blessed are You, Lord our God, King of the Universe, Who creates various kinds of spices.)
- Blessing over Fire: Light the Havdalah candle. Hold up your hands and gaze at the light, noticing the shadows. Baruch Atah Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha'olam, Borei M'orei Ha'Eish. (Blessed are You, Lord our God, King of the Universe, Who creates the lights of the fire.)
- The Havdalah Blessing: Baruch Atah Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha'olam, HaMavdil Bein Kodesh L'Chol, Bein Or L'Choshech, Bein Yisrael La'Amim, Bein Yom HaShevi'i L'Sheshet Yemei HaMa'aseh. Baruch Atah Adonai, HaMavdil Bein Kodesh L'Chol. (Blessed are You, Lord our God, King of the Universe, Who distinguishes between the holy and the mundane, between light and darkness, between Israel and the nations, between the seventh day and the six days of work. Blessed are You, Lord, Who distinguishes between the holy and the mundane.)
The Light We Carry (Chayei Sarah Twist!):
- Extinguish the Candle: Dip the Havdalah candle's flame into the wine (or a small bowl of water you've set aside), extinguishing it with a sizzle.
- The "Legacy Light" Moment: Now, hold up your "Legacy Light" object. Each person takes their object.
- Connect to Sarah: Briefly share: "Just as Sarah's sun set and Rebekah's rose, we acknowledge the transitions in our lives. We carry forward the light from what has ended into what is beginning."
- Personal Reflection: Each person takes a moment to hold their object and think: "What light (a lesson, a feeling, a memory, a value) from the past week, or from something that has ended, do I want to consciously carry into the new week? What spirit of chesed or ruach do I want to bring with me?" Encourage sharing if comfortable, perhaps starting with a parent. (e.g., "I carry the patience I learned with my sibling," or "I carry the joy from our Shabbat dinner," or "I carry the strength to face a challenge.")
- The Niggun: As you do this, you can hum or sing our niggun: "The sun may set, the new sun rise, the light within us never dies!" Let the melody fill the space.
- Write Your Intention: On the "Future Intention" card, each person can quickly jot down one word or a short phrase representing the new beginning they want to invite into the week, or one way they want to act with chesed or ruach this week. (e.g., "Kindness," "Patience," "Listen," "Explore," "Connect.")
Blessing for the Week Ahead:
- Everyone holds their "Legacy Light" object and their "Future Intention" card.
- Optional: Share a personal blessing for each other for the week ahead, focusing on their intentions.
- Conclude with Eliyahu HaNavi or any other familiar Havdalah songs.
Why this works:
- Honors Transition: Directly connects to Sarah's passing and Rebekah's arrival, showing that endings create space for new beginnings.
- Active Engagement: Encourages family members to actively reflect on their personal "light" and intentions, fostering a sense of agency (like Rebekah's "I will go").
- Tangible Connection: The "Legacy Light" object creates a physical reminder to carry the lessons of the past into the future.
- Builds Kehillah (Community): Sharing intentions and blessings strengthens family bonds and mutual support.
- Simple & Adaptable: Easy to integrate into an existing Havdalah routine, adaptable for all ages.
This Havdalah of Continuity transforms a weekly ritual into a deeply personal and family-centered experience, echoing the ancient wisdom of Chayei Sarah right in your home. It’s a beautiful way to ensure the spiritual ruach of your Jewish journey keeps glowing brightly, week after week.
Chevruta Mini
Alright, let's keep that campfire conversation going! Grab a partner – maybe a spouse, a friend, a child (adjusting for age, of course!) – and dive into these questions. Remember, there are no wrong answers, just honest reflections.
- Rooting Your Legacy: Abraham's immediate action after Sarah's death was to secure a burial site, establishing a lasting physical connection to the Land of Canaan. In our homes, how do we consciously create "sacred spaces" or "root our legacy" – not necessarily in land, but in values, traditions, or memories? What's one small, intentional step you could take this week to make your home more of a spiritual anchor for your family?
- The Call and the "I Will Go": The servant prayed for a clear sign, and Rebekah responded with extraordinary chesed and then famously declared, "I will go." Think about a significant decision or transition your family is facing (or has faced). How might you invite more divine guidance (ruach) into the process, while also empowering each family member (especially children) to express their own "I will go" and embrace their agency?
Takeaway + Citations
Wow, what a journey we've been on, from the grief of Sarah's passing to the joyous union of Isaac and Rebekah, all wrapped up in the warmth of our virtual campfire!
The ultimate takeaway from Parashat Chayei Sarah is this beautiful, powerful truth: Life is a continuous unfolding, a tapestry woven with endings and beginnings, where every transition is an opportunity to strengthen our roots, embrace new light, and actively build our legacy with faith and open hearts.
We've seen Abraham, the patriarch, model resilience and forward-thinking stewardship as he secures his family's place in the promised land, even amidst profound loss. We witnessed the incredible interplay of divine guidance (ruach) and human agency, particularly in the story of Rebekah, whose radical chesed and courageous "I will go" set the stage for the next generation. And through it all, the theme of kehillah – community, family, and connection – shines through, reminding us that we are always part of something larger, a lineage that stretches back through time and forward into the future.
Just like at camp, where every summer ends but the friendships and lessons live on, the "sun of Sarah may set," but the "sun of Rebekah rises," ensuring the light never truly dims. It simply finds a new vessel, a new home, a new heart to illuminate. Carry that light, that ruach, that spirit of continuity and chesed, into your home this week. May your home be a place where legacies are rooted, where guidance is sought, and where every "I will go" is celebrated!
Shabbat Shalom, my friends, and keep that fire burning brightly!
Citations
- Genesis 23:1-25:18: https://www.sefaria.org/Genesis_23%3A1-25%3A18
- Ramban on Genesis 23:1:1: https://www.sefaria.org/Ramban_on_Genesis.23.1.1?lang=en&with=all&lang2=en
- Ibn Ezra on Genesis 23:1:1: https://www.sefaria.org/Ibn_Ezra_on_Genesis.23.1.1?lang=en&with=all&lang2=en
- Rashbam on Genesis 23:1:1: https://www.sefaria.org/Rashbam_on_Genesis.23.1.1?lang=en&with=all&lang2=en
- Kli Yakar on Genesis 23:1:1: https://www.sefaria.org/Kli_Yakar_on_Genesis.23.1.1?lang=he&with=all&lang2=en
- Kli Yakar on Genesis 23:1:2: https://www.sefaria.org/Kli_Yakar_on_Genesis.23.1.2?lang=he&with=all&lang2=en
- Kli Yakar on Genesis 23:1:3: https://www.sefaria.org/Kli_Yakar_on_Genesis.23.1.3?lang=he&with=all&lang2=en
- Kitzur Ba'al HaTurim on Genesis 23:1:1: https://www.sefaria.org/Kitzur_Ba'al_HaTurim_on_Genesis.23.1.1?lang=he&with=all&lang2=en
- Kitzur Ba'al HaTurim on Genesis 23:1:2: https://www.sefaria.org/Kitzur_Ba'al_HaTurim_on_Genesis.23.1.2?lang=he&with=all&lang2=en
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