Tanya, Part I; Likkutei Amarim 12:10

Hook

Remember feeling like spiritual texts were full of unattainable saints and impossible standards? Like true goodness meant never having a bad thought, or always feeling a pure, unblemished connection to the divine? Perhaps you dipped a toe into Jewish learning in Hebrew school, only to quickly bounce off the idea that you were inherently "bad" if you struggled with impulses, or that real spiritual growth was reserved for reclusive mystics. The whole concept of "righteousness" often comes wrapped in a cloak of judgment, making us feel like we're constantly falling short, forever in a state of spiritual deficit. "Good people" seemed like a separate species, serene and unburdened by the messy realities of daily life.

You weren't wrong to feel that way. That stale take, that narrow definition of spiritual success, often misses the point entirely. It can leave us feeling guilty for our very humanity, for the persistent tug-of-war within us, for the desires and distractions that are simply part of being alive in a complex world. Who has time for ethereal perfection when you're juggling work deadlines, family demands, and the relentless hum of modern life?

But what if I told you that one of the most profound, psychologically astute texts in Jewish mysticism actually offers a radical, deeply relatable, and surprisingly achievable definition of spiritual greatness? One that doesn't demand you transcend your humanity, but rather empowers you to master it. What if it acknowledges your inner struggle not as a flaw, but as the very arena for your most significant growth? We're going to dive into a passage from Tanya, a foundational text of Chabad Chassidism, that introduces a concept so revolutionary, so profoundly empathetic, it might just change how you see your own inner world and your capacity for genuine spiritual achievement. Let's ditch the guilt and dig into the Benoni – the "Intermediate Person" – a title that, as we’ll see, is anything but intermediate. Prepare for a fresher look at what it truly means to be "good."

Context

The traditional understanding of spiritual categories often left us with a binary: Tzaddik (righteous, saintly) or Rasha (wicked, sinful). It felt like a spiritual "pass/fail" system, and most of us, being acutely aware of our own internal imperfections, instinctively placed ourselves in the "fail" category. This rigid framework, often simplified and delivered in a way that felt more prescriptive than empowering, fostered a sense of hopelessness. If you're not a tzaddik, you must be a rasha, right? And if you're a rasha, what's the point of even trying? This is precisely the misconception that the Tanya, particularly in Chapter 12, so elegantly dismantles.

Here are three key insights that demystify this rule-heavy misconception and set the stage for our deeper dive:

The Benoni: A Distinct, Achievable Category of Greatness

Firstly, Tanya introduces the Benoni – the "Intermediate Person" – not as a lukewarm, half-hearted individual stuck between good and evil, but as a distinct and highly exalted spiritual rank. This isn't a temporary stop on the way to becoming a Tzaddik; it's an end in itself, a profound state of being that is explicitly described as "far superior to the rank of tzaddik as defined generally when it is applied to one whose good deeds exceed the bad." The Benoni is not someone who sometimes acts well; they are defined by the absolute absence of sin in thought, speech, and action. This immediately shatters the binary and offers a new, tangible goal that feels both challenging and within reach. It says: there's a profound, meaningful place for you, right here, right now, without having to be a perfect saint.

The Inner World as a "Small City": A Dynamic Battleground

Secondly, Tanya presents a sophisticated, almost psychological model of the human being as a "small city." This city is inhabited by two primary forces: the Divine Soul (the neshamah, residing primarily in the brain and the right part of the heart, oriented towards holiness and connection) and the Animal Soul (nefesh habehamit, originating in the kelipah, residing in the left part of the heart, oriented towards worldly desires and self-gratification). The key insight here is that this is a dynamic internal landscape, a constant battleground, not a static state. The Benoni's greatness isn't in having eradicated the Animal Soul; it's in ensuring the Divine Soul always maintains sovereignty, preventing the Animal Soul from capturing the city and manifesting its desires in action, speech, or even willing thought. This demystifies spiritual struggle: it's not a sign of failure, but the very process of living a spiritual life.

Continuous Conquest, Not Permanent Eradication

Thirdly, and perhaps most revolutionary for those who felt like failures, the text makes it clear that for the Benoni, the evil inclination is not sublimated or eliminated. It reawakens. "After prayer, when the state of sublimity of the Intellect of the En Sof, blessed is He, departs, the evil in the left part reawakens, and he begins to feel a desire for the lusts of the world and its delights." This is the critical distinction from a Tzaddik, whose evil inclination has been transformed into good. The Benoni's greatness lies in the constant, conscious act of overcoming these reawakening desires through the power of their intellect and willpower. It's a daily, hourly, moment-by-moment practice of choosing. This shifts the focus from an impossible, static state of "purity" to an empowering, dynamic process of internal mastery. You don't have to stop feeling; you just have to choose how you respond.

Text Snapshot

Let's ground ourselves in the original words that sparked this revolutionary perspective. Here are a few lines that capture the essence of the Benoni:

The benoni (intermediate) is he in whom evil never attains enough power to capture the “small city,” so as to clothe itself in the body and make it sin… He has never committed, nor ever will commit, any transgression; neither can the name “wicked” be applied to him even temporarily, or even for a moment, throughout his life.

However, after prayer… the evil in the left part reawakens, and he begins to feel a desire for the lusts of the world and its delights. Yet… the brain rules over the heart… For this is how man is created from birth, that each person may, with the willpower in his brain, restrain himself and control the drive of lust that is in his heart… and divert his attention altogether from the craving of his heart toward the completely opposite direction, particularly in the direction of holiness.

But no sooner does it reach there than he thrusts it out with both hands and averts his mind from it the instant he reminds himself that it is an evil thought, refusing to accept it willingly, even to let his thoughts play on it willingly… So, too, in matters affecting a person’s relations with his neighbor, as soon as there rises from his heart to his mind some animosity or hatred… he gives them no entrance into his mind and will. On the contrary, his mind exercises its authority and power over the spirit in his heart to do the very opposite and to conduct himself toward his neighbor with the quality of kindness and a display of abundant love… but rather to repay the offenders with favors, as taught in the Zohar, that one should learn from the example of Joseph toward his brothers.

New Angle

The Tanya's description of the Benoni isn't just an ancient spiritual ideal; it's a profoundly practical user manual for navigating the complexities of modern adult life. It speaks directly to the internal struggles we all face, offering a path that is both deeply empowering and surprisingly accessible. Let's explore two insights that redefine what it means to live a meaningful, integrated life in our "small cities."

Insight 1: The Power of "No" (and "Next") in an Overwhelmed World

In our hyper-connected, always-on society, the adult experience is often one of relentless overwhelm. We are bombarded by desires, distractions, and demands from every conceivable direction. Our phones buzz with notifications promising immediate gratification. Social media constantly parades curated versions of "perfect" lives, fueling comparison and envy. Consumer culture whispers sweet nothings about instant happiness through acquisition. Work demands bleed into personal time, while family responsibilities tug at our limited resources. And internally, our own minds can be a cacophony of self-doubt, anxiety, and a relentless stream of unhelpful thoughts.

The stale take on spirituality often tells us we shouldn't feel these things – that a truly "good" person exists in a serene bubble, untouched by worldly temptations or negative emotions. This creates an impossible standard, leading to guilt, shame, and the demoralizing conclusion that we're simply not cut out for spiritual growth. "I felt lazy today," we think, "so I must be a bad person." "I got angry with my kid," we lament, "I'm a terrible parent."

The Tanya's Benoni offers a radical, liberating counter-narrative. The text explicitly states that for the Benoni, "the evil in the left part reawakens, and he begins to feel a desire for the lusts of the world and its delights." This is a game-changer. It means the spiritual work isn't about eradicating the feeling itself, nor is it about judging yourself for having it. The Benoni is not someone devoid of negative impulses or worldly desires. They are someone who feels them, just like you and I do. The critical difference lies in what happens next.

This insight resonates deeply with modern mindfulness practices, which teach us to observe thoughts and feelings without judgment or attachment. But Tanya takes it a step further, providing an active, volitional strategy for engagement. The Benoni doesn't passively observe; they actively intervene. When a negative thought or desire arises, "he thrusts it out with both hands and averts his mind from it the instant he reminds himself that it is an evil thought, refusing to accept it willingly, even to let his thoughts play on it willingly; how much more so to entertain any idea of putting it into effect, G–d forbid, or even to put it into words."

This is the power of "No." It’s a decisive, immediate, internal boundary-setting. It's not suppression, which often leads to feelings festering beneath the surface, only to erupt later. Instead, it’s an active disengagement, a conscious refusal to give mental real estate to that impulse. Imagine a mental bouncer at the door of your consciousness: "Nope, not tonight. You're not getting in."

But the Benoni doesn't stop at "No." The text continues: they "divert his attention altogether from the craving of his heart toward the completely opposite direction, particularly in the direction of holiness." This is the power of "Next." It’s a proactive redirection, a conscious choice to pivot towards something constructive, positive, or aligned with one's higher values. "Holiness" here can be understood broadly as anything that elevates, connects, or contributes to greater good – whether that's a spiritual practice, a kind act, a focused task, or a moment of gratitude.

Let's see how this plays out in the real, messy world of adult life:

The "No" and "Next" in Adult Life:

• At Work: The overwhelming project lands on your desk. Your animal soul whispers, "Procrastinate. Check social media. This is too hard." The Benoni doesn't pretend this feeling doesn't exist. They acknowledge the urge, then mentally "thrust it out" – "Nope, not entertaining that thought right now." Immediately, they pivot to "Next": "What's the absolute smallest, most manageable step I can take right now?" (Open the document, write one sentence, outline the first paragraph.) Or perhaps, a colleague makes a snide remark. The impulse to react with anger or gossip is strong. The Benoni "thrusts" that immediate, vengeful thought and redirects to "Next": focusing on their own work, offering a silent blessing for the colleague, or choosing to respond with professionalism and kindness, demonstrating the "repaying offenders with favors" approach.

• In Family Life: You’ve had a long, draining day. Your child asks for something, or your partner says something that rubs you the wrong way. The immediate, instinctual urge is to snap, to retreat, to prioritize your own tired needs. The Benoni model encourages you to catch that flash of impatience, "thrust it out" before it takes root, and pivot to "Next": take a deep breath, offer a gentle word, ask a clarifying question, or simply offer a hug. It's about consciously choosing the patient, loving response, even when every fiber of your being wants to react impulsively. The text's example of Joseph towards his brothers – forgiving and favoring those who deeply wronged him – is the ultimate "No" to animosity and "Next" to profound love and kindness. It's a strategic choice, not an emotional reaction.

• For Personal Growth and Meaning: The constant drone of self-criticism, the feeling that you're not good enough, smart enough, successful enough. The Benoni teaches you to "thrust out" these unhelpful, self-sabotaging thoughts. "Nope, not going down that rabbit hole." And then, "Next": redirect to a practice of gratitude, recall a past achievement, offer yourself compassion, or focus on a small act of self-care. It's about taking active control of your internal narrative, refusing to be a passive recipient of your mind's unhelpful chatter. When faced with the desire for instant gratification (e.g., unhealthy food, endless streaming) versus long-term well-being, the Benoni doesn't suppress the craving, but rather "thrusts it out" and pivots to "Next": preparing a nutritious meal, going for a walk, or engaging in a hobby that nourishes the soul.

This matters because this insight transforms internal struggle from a sign of failure into an empowering opportunity for growth and agency. It frees us from the tyranny of immediate gratification and the debilitating weight of guilt for simply having human desires. It provides a concrete, actionable framework for aligning our daily actions with our deepest values, even when our emotions are pulling us elsewhere. It makes spirituality a deeply practical tool for living a more intentional, resilient, and authentic life, rather than an esoteric ideal reserved for the few. The Benoni's path is about actively choosing who you are, moment by moment, regardless of what your inner critic or external world throws at you. It's about building an internal muscle of conscious choice, demonstrating that your true self is the one making the decision, not the fleeting impulse.

Insight 2: The Intellect as Your Inner CEO: Strategic Living in the "Small City"

Beyond the immediate "No" and "Next," the Tanya offers a profound framework for understanding the hierarchy of our internal world, painting a picture where our intellect is not merely a tool for problem-solving, but the sovereign leader, the CEO of our "small city." The stale take often suggests that spiritual people are primarily guided by emotion – a burning, unadulterated love or fear of God. While these emotions are certainly vital, the Tanya argues for a more structured, strategic approach to spiritual governance, one that empowers the intellect to reign supreme.

The text states unequivocally, "the brain rules over the heart... by virtue of its innately created nature. For this is how man is created from birth, that each person may, with the willpower in his brain, restrain himself and control the drive of lust that is in his heart... " This isn't just a philosophical declaration; it's a foundational operating principle for human existence. Your intellect, your capacity for wisdom, understanding, and knowledge (Chabad in Kabbalistic terms), is designed to be in charge. It's the strategic command center, meant to guide and direct the powerful, sometimes chaotic, forces of the heart (emotions and desires).

The Benoni ensures that the divine soul, whose "essence and being" manifest through these intellectual faculties, holds "undisputed sovereignty and sway over the 'small city.'" This isn't about becoming cold, detached, or emotionless. Rather, it's about making conscious, values-driven decisions even when emotions are intense or contradictory. Your emotions provide valuable data, but your intellect, informed by your higher purpose, makes the executive calls.

The text further reinforces this by quoting Ecclesiastes: "Then I saw that wisdom surpasses folly as light surpasses darkness." This analogy is critical. Light doesn't negotiate with darkness; it banishes it. A little physical light dispels a great deal of darkness "as a matter of course and necessity." Similarly, the wisdom of the divine soul in the brain doesn't just outweigh the foolishness of the kelipah (evil inclination); it actively drives it away. This positions the intellect as an active, powerful force for order and clarity, a brilliant CEO who strategically illuminates and directs the entire enterprise.

The Inner CEO in Adult Life: Strategic Governance

As adults, we are constantly engaged in strategic decision-making in our external lives. We manage careers, finances, complex relationships, health goals, and future planning. We understand the importance of vision, values, and long-term planning over impulsive reactions. Tanya invites us to apply this same strategic leadership to our internal world. Your innate capacity to think, analyze, and choose is your most powerful tool for self-mastery.

• At Work: Vision, Values, and Ethical Leadership. Your inner CEO (intellect) establishes the "mission statement" for your professional life. Why are you doing this work? What values does it uphold? When faced with a difficult client, a demanding boss, or an ethical dilemma, the emotional response might be frustration, anger, or fear. But the Benoni's intellect steps in, drawing on its innate wisdom and higher values (like integrity, service, or communal well-being). It doesn't deny the frustration but chooses a response that aligns with the established mission. This could mean calmly de-escalating a conflict, advocating for an ethical solution, or patiently explaining a complex issue, rather than reacting impulsively. This strategic approach ensures your professional actions consistently reflect your deepest principles, building a reputation of integrity and purpose.

• In Family Life: Intentional Nurturing and Conflict Resolution. Family life is a crucible of emotions. The desire for immediate personal comfort, the frustration of unmet needs, the irritation of daily friction – these are constant. The inner CEO ensures that decisions within the family unit are guided by long-term love, empathy, and the well-being of all members, rather than fleeting emotional whims. For instance, when a child acts out, the initial emotional impulse might be anger or exasperation. The intellect, drawing on its "hidden love" for the child and the "innate fear" (reverence) for the sacred responsibility of parenting, chooses patience, understanding, and a constructive response, even if it's harder in the moment. The text explicitly addresses "matters affecting a person’s relations with his neighbor," mentioning "animosity or hatred, G–d forbid, or jealousy or anger, or a grudge and suchlike." The Benoni "gives them no entrance into his mind and will. On the contrary, his mind exercises its authority and power over the spirit in his heart to do the very opposite and to conduct himself toward his neighbor with the quality of kindness and a display of abundant love, to the extent of suffering from him to the extreme limits without becoming provoked into anger, G–d forbid, or to revenge in kind, G–d forbid; but rather to repay the offenders with favors, as taught in the Zohar, that one should learn from the example of Joseph toward his brothers." This is the intellect as CEO in full strategic mode. Joseph, despite being betrayed and enslaved by his brothers, chose to govern his heart with kindness and forgiveness. This wasn't an easy emotional response; it was a profound, strategic decision driven by a higher purpose and an understanding of divine will. For us, this means that even when a partner or family member deeply offends, our intellect can choose to invest in reconciliation, empathy, and acts of kindness, rather than allowing resentment to fester. It's an active, strategic investment in the health of the relationship, overriding the immediate, reactive emotional pull.

• For Personal Growth: Self-Governance and Purposeful Living. Your inner CEO helps you define your personal values, set meaningful goals, and allocate your most precious resources—time, energy, attention—in alignment with those values. It’s the intellect that helps you discern between true nourishment and fleeting distraction, between long-term well-being and instant gratification. It cultivates habits of reflection, gratitude, and intentionality. When the animal soul desires endless entertainment or unhealthy habits, the intellect, drawing on your innate drive for meaning and wholeness (the "hidden love"), steps in to guide choices towards activities that truly enrich your life, build your character, and foster genuine connection. This applies to financial discipline, health choices, and the pursuit of lifelong learning. The CEO within you constantly asks: "Is this choice serving my highest purpose?"

This matters because this insight elevates our understanding of self-mastery from mere self-control to active, strategic leadership of our internal world. It provides a blueprint for aligning our daily decisions—in work, family, and personal growth—with our deepest values, even when challenging emotions arise. It transforms us from passive recipients of our feelings into active architects of our character and impact. By recognizing and activating the "innately created nature" of our intellect's supremacy, we tap into a profound wellspring of agency and purpose. It's about building a life of integrity, profound meaning, and intentional contribution, not just avoiding sin. It’s about ensuring that your "small city" is not just peaceful, but flourishing under wise and compassionate leadership.

Low-Lift Ritual: The "Inner CEO's 2-Minute Pivot"

Okay, so we’ve talked about the Benoni’s power of "No" and "Next," and how your intellect is designed to be the CEO of your inner city. Now, how do we put this into practice without needing to meditate for an hour or overhaul your entire life? This ritual is designed to be low-lift, actionable, and less than two minutes, using the principle of immediate, conscious redirection.

The Ritual: The "Inner CEO's 2-Minute Pivot"

This practice helps you actively assert your intellect’s authority, "thrusting out" unhelpful impulses and "pivoting" towards a more constructive, aligned direction.

1. Catch the Unhelpful Impulse (10-15 seconds):

   • Throughout your day, become a gentle observer of your internal landscape. When you notice an unhelpful thought, desire, or emotional surge (e.g., the urge to procrastinate, a critical thought about yourself or someone else, a flash of anger, a craving for something unhealthy, the desire to endlessly scroll social media, the impulse to complain).
   • Self-check: "Ah, there's that familiar thought/feeling attempting to gain traction." No judgment, just pure observation.

2. The "Thrust It Out" - Mental and Subtle Physical (15-30 seconds):

   • Mentally visualize (and if you're alone, subtly make) a gentle "pushing away" gesture with your hands, as if you're gently but firmly placing that thought/impulse outside your immediate mental workspace. This is your inner CEO saying, "Thank you for sharing, but we're not taking that meeting right now."
   • Breathe deeply as you do this. This physical, even subtle, action helps cement the mental intention of disengagement. It's a non-verbal affirmation of "No."

3. The "Pivot to Next" - Conscious Redirection (60-90 seconds):

   • Immediately after the "thrust," consciously and deliberately pivot your attention towards a "completely opposite direction, particularly in the direction of holiness" (or your highest values). This is your inner CEO redirecting resources.
   • Examples of Pivots:
     • If it was procrastination: Immediately identify the next smallest step for your task. "I will open the email." "I will write one sentence." "I will organize my files for 60 seconds." Then do it.
     • If it was a critical thought (self or other): Reframe it. "Instead of 'I'm a failure,' I choose to acknowledge 'I made a mistake, and I can learn from it.'" Or, "Instead of 'They're so incompetent,' I will think of one positive quality about this person."
     • If it was anger/animosity: Mentally send a silent blessing or wish of peace to the person. Or, if applicable, intentionally do a small act of kindness for anyone in your vicinity, even just a smile or holding a door.
     • If it was a craving for distraction/unhealthy habit: Recall one of your deeply held values (e.g., health, presence, connection). Then, choose a small, aligned action: "I will drink a glass of water," or "I will spend 60 seconds looking out the window, noticing five things I'm grateful for."
     • For any general negative thought: Consciously shift your focus to something you are genuinely grateful for in that moment. Name three things.

Why this matters because: This ritual isn't about eradicating your human impulses; it's about training your intellect to assert its innate authority over them. It builds the muscle of conscious choice, demonstrating that you are not beholden to every fleeting desire or negative thought. By consistently practicing this "thrust and pivot," you empower your inner CEO to strategically lead your "small city," ensuring that your actions, speech, and even willing thoughts are aligned with your highest values and purpose, moment by moment. It's a tiny, powerful act of self-mastery that accumulates into profound spiritual strength.

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Here are two questions to discuss with a partner (or ponder deeply on your own), allowing the insights of the Benoni to ripple through your personal experience:

1. The text defines the benoni as someone "in whom evil never attains enough power to capture the 'small city,' so as to clothe itself in the body and make it sin." How does this redefinition of "sin" or "failure" (focusing on the outcome of thought/speech/action, rather than the mere presence of an impulse) resonate with your own internal struggles? What implications does it have for how you view your own capacity for spiritual growth?
2. The benoni doesn't eradicate negative desires but "thrusts it out with both hands and averts his mind from it... and divert his attention altogether from the craving of his heart toward the completely opposite direction, particularly in the direction of holiness." Think of a recent situation in your adult life (work, family, personal) where you felt a strong, unhelpful impulse (e.g., anger, envy, procrastination, self-criticism). How might applying this "thrust and redirect" strategy have changed your experience or outcome?

Takeaway

You were never wrong to feel the internal tug-of-war, the persistent pull of desires, or the struggle to align your actions with your highest intentions. That's not a sign of spiritual failure; it's the very arena where authentic spiritual greatness is forged. The Tanya's Benoni offers a profoundly empathetic and empowering model for adult life, revealing that true mastery isn't about eradicating your human nature, but about skillfully leading it. Your intellect, your innate capacity for wisdom and conscious choice, is designed to be the sovereign CEO of your "small city." By actively saying "No" to unhelpful impulses and immediately pivoting to "Next"—a conscious, values-aligned redirection—you unleash your innate power to live a life of integrity, purpose, and profound meaning, moment by moment. This isn't just an ancient text; it's a practical blueprint for you to reclaim your inner authority and truly re-enchant your everyday existence.