I Samuel 11

Insight

Leadership isn't about being a superhero; it’s about noticing when things are broken and showing up. Saul was literally driving cattle when he heard the people crying I Samuel 11:5. He didn't have a grand plan or a royal pedigree yet, but he had the empathy to ask "Why?" and the courage to act. In parenting, we often wait for the "perfect" moment to lead or discipline. But leadership is just showing up, staying present, and choosing kindness over vengeance once the "battle" is won.

Text Snapshot

"Saul was just coming from the field driving the cattle; and Saul asked, 'Why are the people crying?'... the spirit of God gripped Saul and his anger blazed up." I Samuel 11:5-6

Activity: The "Why Are You Crying?" Check-in

When you see your child struggling or melting down today, pause for 60 seconds before reacting. Get down to their eye level and ask, "I see you’re upset. Can you tell me what’s happening?" Listen without fixing, lecturing, or rushing. Just witness their "Jabesh-gilead" moment.

Script: When They Ask About Fairness

Child: "It's not fair! They got a bigger piece of cake!" Parent: "I hear you, and it feels frustrating when things don't look equal. Right now, we’re focusing on making sure everyone has enough to be happy. Let’s celebrate that we’re all having a treat together."

Habit: The "Victory" Pause

At dinner, share one "micro-win" from the day where you or someone else stayed calm or helpful during a chaotic moment. It shifts the focus from the "battle" to the "victory."

Takeaway

You don't need a crown to lead your home; you just need to be the one who notices the tears and offers a steady hand. Bless your chaos—you’re doing better than you think.